Intervention

Of course many people have heard of an intervention; I'm also sure that a lot of people have viewed the show on TLC on Monday nights.  I find this show very powerful and gut wrenching. 
 My plan as a whole after I am done with college and the nursing (getting my masters) I want to have the chance to work in a rehab facility and help people with addictions.  I want to show them the way things should be done, it's something very pyhscological (the drug addiction is engrained in their head). 
I feel this show is very powerful, it leads the person who is addicted to believe they are just filming about being addicted to drugs (any type, even alcohol).  Little does the person know that eventually at the end of the filming, the person has to do a last interview and when this person is coming to the facility to do a last interview their whole family is there to express their concern for the way the person is going down hil.  I've never had the personal expierence with drugs, but I do know a lot of people who have gone through rehab and the withdraws of what drugs can inflict on someone.
I do have the personal expierence of being very close to someone who has had and still fights his drug addiction; he's not the only one in his family that has gone through this.  His father died of an OD, one of his sister's is fighting her addiction with along with her husband and his mother has been clean since his father died and his other sister has been clean the same amount of time.  The people that are having issues with fighting their addiction they will not do rehab or any thing to try to help them through this, i first blamed it on being hard headed, but with watching intervention and knowing the show and the types of people on there, I just feel that people have a hard time that are so addicted to getting over drugs without some sort of help. 

Eat Better Do Better-Jamie Oliver

I've recently done a lot of research for many different types of subjects for these papers for English.  I have been completely lost the past couple weeks with these papers we are writing and find it a process.  But, in doing research I have came across Jamie Oliver and his amazing work he is trying to do for children. I love the modo "Eat better do better" it is such a simple idea and concept but means so much and couldn't be more true on so many levels.

I love the work that Jamie is doing for the people of the UK.  The effort that he is putting into children of the future is priceless; I just wish that America would wake up and do the same.  I feel after reading these websites that Jamie has provided that there is so much more that we could be doing to make our children's lunches better for them.  My daughter who is in Kindergarden and is very intelligent at knowing what is good for her and what is bad for her, but at the same time it isn't stopping her from wanting the junk food.  I believe that if schools put forth the effort that the UK is putting forth that children would know it's ok to try other foods out of the box.  It truly aggrevates me at the fact that money for this country is being spent on things that really don't mean anything.  The kind of junk that children are offered at school is not going to help them at all with their future.  Why can't we take a little money out and put it towards good use towards something that will make a difference in the future of our children, like the UK and Jamie Oliver's view towards childhood obesity and school lunches. 


(So, I believe I got off subject ..I wish I could write like this and just go with it on my papers.)

Facebook Official

Facebook has a big play in people’s relationships.  I hear everyday teenagers saying, oh you guys need to make it “Facebook official”.  The teenage world today is spending a lot more time than they should be on Facebook.  If you’re not making your relationship Facebook public then it’s truly not official.  The problems that come from Facebook can cause a huge issue in a relationship.  Not only a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship but a friendship.  Many people don’t realize the damage caused by posting personal information on these types of social pages. 

When you are posting your general information and letting people know whether you’re single or in a relationship, every time the status changes people will ask you millions of questions.  If you recently did just break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend who wants to answer all these silly questions, when truly it’s no one else’s business but your own.

Social network sites are here so people can do exactly what they are meant to do.  Give people the opportunity to meet new people and to keep in contact with their family members.  But, it seems to have changed into so much more for many users.  I can’t deny it; somehow I’ve been sucked into the whirlpool.  I usually use it to speak to family; but occasionally I will catch myself “Facebook stalking” someone (never a good thing to truly admit ha-ha). 

Glamorizing Teen Pregnancy

When I was 16 and 17 they did not have the show 16 & pregnant or Teen mom.  I became a teenaged mother at the age of 17, my senior year in high school I was pregnan throughout.  Let me tell ya, it was no walk through the park either.  I had plenty of friends, played sports and even had a scholarship going for myself until I got pregnant.  I felt like the black sheep of my class, I mean of course people were nice to me; always wanting to rub my belly or feel the baby kick.  But, little did they know I heard the things they said behind my back. I had a very hard time being pregnant because I'm a people person and relied on my friends companionship so much, but after getting pregnant it was all gone. 

(Always in the spot light, isn't truly how pregnancy is and who wants their teenage years to be like that any ways, especially pregnan!?)

Teen mom I believe has glamorized teen pregnany.  Most of the girls that were on the show previously have more concerns with doing things to further their "fame" than worrying about what's going on with their children.  Every time I've looked at a magazine it seems like there is another one of the girls from the first season of teen mom; talking about how one got a boob job to further her tv career or loosing cudstody of their child for abusive behavior.  This in all reality is not how true motherhood is, especially at a teenage stage.  There isn't going to be lights and cameras around to watch your every more, some family members are going to be so againist the idea that they don't talk to you for years.  When you become a mother you have to learn to grow up and be responsible. With saying that in some seasons I've noticed that the mother's or father's parents are paying for a lot of things, you might get help from parents and family, but they aren't going to buy your way.  You made the choice to have sex and to have a baby now you should be the one taking care of it, not someone else it's part of the responsibility! It really makes me angry how this show portrays teen pregnany, since I've actually expierenced it and know how it truly is.  Yet, for some reason I can't stop watching this show and I'm not sure why the addiction to it.  Many girls are watching this show every week and some can't deal with missing it.  I just hope that most and many girls truly realize that the life that these girls are having on the television show, aren't truly how realy motherhood and raising a child is.  The party life that you thought you might live during your teen years going into your early twenties won't happen if your truly responsbile with your child.

Healthy Eating..

We are supposed to write this blog on another idea for our position papers, which I must say I'm really stressed out about.  So the government is really trying to put in effect that schools offer healthier lunches and that there isn't vending machines full of junk food, which is GREAT!  I myself wish they would have done this when I was in school instead of seeing mush even though it was supposed to be some sort of meat, it would have been healthy.  I'm so happy that people are working towards this goal for schools; kids need to have a healthy food style. The problem is why is it that schools are forcing kids (in a good way) to eat healthy food and portray to them that healthy eating is good but you have parents who aren't doing the same thing at home.  School is a big part of a child's life but let’s face the music now a child is going to take the habits that their parents do around them, they are around their parents so much more.  Parent's aren't taking in to consideration that burger they just ate from McDonald’s isn't a good meal for them or their child.  Why are parents trying to have schools serve healthier food, when they can't even do the good food habits a home?  I think that parents MUST enforce the good eating at home just as much as they do in school, even more since kids take their parents action much more seriously.  Along with this why is that kids are having physical education required of them now (which is also an excellent thing) but when the children get home their parents kind of push everything to the side and give them a remote controller or a video game to keep them busy.  I find that parents really need to take control of their children's food intake and physical activity when home, pay attention more to the things they are putting into their mouths because in the long run you can save your child's life for their future. 
The schools do have a big part in shaping our children, but parents have an even bigger role.  I also think that with taking these steps to better your child's life it will also help you realize what you can do for yourself to make sure that you will be here for your children as long as you can.  So instead of going through the drive-through tonight or picking up the video game controller, have you children make a healthy dinner with you and go outside and take a little walk, cold or not it will make you and your child feel amazing.

Help from the government

I can’t figure out why the government hasn’t taken action against people who are taking complete advantage of the system.  They could easily drug test people that are getting any type of financial assistance from them and more than likely get rid of over half the people that are getting help.  The United States might not have such a financial debt if they would consider this.  I know personally of people that get help like health (Medicaid), food stamps or even TANF (cash) and that sell their food stamps and give their card to people for actual money to get their extra-curricular activities.  I personally am a single mother and have worked since the day I turned 18 and had a 5 year old at the age of 17, my senior year; there is no way I could ever make it without the help of the government and am thankful for it, but I wonder if they could give me more help if some people weren’t taking advantage of the system.  I think if the government would think about it more and see that a lot of people, no not all people, but a lot are taking advantage of the system; and well the government is getting screwed royally just like people who need the system more in their favor.  I believe also for the fathers that aren’t taking the full responsibility of being a parent and skipping out on their child support; that the government could take the money they save from giving assistance to the wrong people and use it more towards finding the fathers who are skipping out.  I think that if the government would get a handle on the resources they are putting out; it might start getting ourselves out of debt. 

I believe that the government can setup drug testing for everyone who is using their benefits.  This way they will know for people who are just abusing their benefits they are offering and for people that aren't maybe can get more help in areas that they need it.  

"Marriage-Plus"

Wow! That's all I can really even begin to say with article that I have "Marriage-Plus".  I’m not really sure how I feel about this article.  I myself have recently became a single parent also along with this was a teenage mother when I became pregnant.  I agree that married couples with children have it a lot easier then single parents trying to make it on their own.  I don’t think a marriage initiative is the way to keep families together; it’s almost like a bribe to stay with someone.  When you’re with someone, I was with my daughter’s father for 7 years and you just try to make it work with the emotions that are flying through the house the child is more affected then when you’re doing it alone.  I think marriage is an option to everyone; I think most people rush into it without thinking and just want to be like everyone around them.  I won’t lie I want to get married just like all my friends are, but I also don’t want my marriage to end in divorce like my mother’s did.  I seen how hard it was for her to struggle raising me on her own, my father never ever gave support or even wanted to see me.  I myself find it crazy that people are getting married at so young of an age.  I think that there wouldn’t be so many single parent houses maybe if there wasn’t an income tax break for those single parents.  So people have children just so they can have more money at tax time, which those people don’t want to get married to their significant other, why would they want too? 

            I am lucky enough to have my daughter’s father in her life as much as possible, but with the times as rough as they are; he doesn’t have a job and isn’t giving me child support, but I don’t think that is affecting my daughter’s life because at least he is still involved. 
            I don’t agree with the welfare benefits that are offered to families that are together.  I know when Shane and I were together and he didn’t have a job but I did we had such a hard time making it, and yet the state still wouldn’t help us because we made to much money; how can you make to much money when you can’t live off the income that’s coming into the home.  Now that I’m single I find it amusing that I can get all the help I can with just my daughter and myself, and I couldn’t previously just because there was one additional person in our family. 
            I think for people who want to get married there isn’t enough guidance out there to help them keep their marriage “alive” or even enough information out there to help them through a rough time.  I think everyone who is wanting to get married should have to go through maybe a Catholic test (they have a class the couple must take together and a test and if they don’t pass the priest will not marry them). 

The image we are giving children

  

Really, what has the world come to?  That’s my true question.  I can’t believe the things parents are willing to put their children through just for a crown.  I’ll admit I have watched the show a few times, but I truly feel sorry for those children.  Why start this type of “perfect” image at such a young age.  I personally am a mother of a 5 year old and I couldn’t imagine putting her through the things these children are going through.  I mean it’s just not normal for a 3-8 year old even a little older than that to have to be getting spray tanned, eye brows waxed, hundreds of dollars spent on dresses and the attitude of a teenager.  I feel these parents in the show are putting their dreams through their children, which isn’t right.  These are children who have no say so and of course have to listen to what their parents are saying.  Why aren’t they letting their children be kids and have a normal life?  My 5 year old is having a typical child’s life I believe and I can’t imagine what her already big attitude would be like if I would put her through a beauty show.  Last summer when we were shopping for swim suits for her she called her self fat and she was 4 years old, what type of image are we putting in our children’s head if we put them through beauty shows; let alone it being on television and nationwide.  The damage that can be done by something so simple, I just wish that parents on this show would think more about that then their selves.  Stop living your dreams through your children; it’s not good for them and their self image or their development later in life.

(3 years old)

Privacy issues vs Life

I can truly say that I didn’t know anything about “X-ray Tests” in the airport.  I was very intrigued when reading these articles.  I think it’s amazing that science has came so far to be able to allow this type of equipment to find such things as knives, watches, keys or weapons.  I don’t agree with some of the statements made in the articles that were against or for the x-ray test.  I believe that for someone’s safety and for the well being of someone that everyone should go through this process.  Of course it’s a privacy issue, but at the same time if you really think about it, I’m sure you’d much rather someone see some x-rated x-rays then the possibility of death on the plane.  One of the articles I read I found very useful in the fact that even when seeing the x-rated image you are not putting a face with the image.  It’s just to make sure that there is nothing on you that could harm you or anyone else around.  With all the news you hear today about bombers and weapons being brought on planes, I think it’s amazing that scientist are coming up with such ideas as this.  I can’t wait for the next idea they come up.  I hope that soon they will find something that can find more then just a rough edged item located on someone.  As of right now that’s all an x-ray can do is find something that would have rough edges on you.  I think that for the safety of everyone it’s a good idea to put this test in all airports, life is worth so much so why not give up a little privacy to live it to the fullest?